10 types of support The Shore Grief Center provides

 

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Participating at a Shore walk in 2014.

  1. First and foremost, we hold grief support groups each month for those grieving the death of a significant person in their life.
  2. Provide a group, Cameron’s Kids grief group, for children ages 6 – 12. This consists of six consecutive weeks with a meal provided before the group starts. We hold this once or twice each year – depending on the need.
  3. Provide a group just for teens (13-18). Save the Teens grief group is held for eight consecutive weeks. We have lots to teach the teens such as healthy ways to deal with their grief; not by using drugs or self-harm.
  4. Beyond the in-person groups, I answer calls from grieving adults, concerned friends and family, school counselors, mental health facilities and more requesting information about our services. Those grieving deserve, and receive, a soothing voice to help them through a confusing death (suicide, drug overdose or other expected death). There calls come in at all times during the day and night.
  5. We also provide comfort and information on our websites and Facebook pages (The Shore, Bereaved Parents, Save the Teens, and Wake Forest SOS). We are considering adding a closed Facebook group and are seeking volunteers to monitor the group.
  6. Provide support for those who have lost someone to suicide. This type of death slaps “survivors” in the face. Survivors are unclear why their loved ones choose to die. Just walking into a SOS group helps because you see there are other people who understand your pain and confusion. These groups helped me survive in 2005 when my 18-year old son choose death over life.
  7. Provide groups and support parents who have lost a child of any age. The death can be from drug overdose, murder, suicide, vehicle accident, illness – any type of death. The Bereaved Parents groups are here for them. We currently have groups in Wake Forest, Cary, Youngsville and Wilson for bereaved parents.
  8. Provide a sounding space for those grieving to express their fears, concerns, and even relief sometimes, after a death. We don’t judge or tell anyone how to feel or act. This allows bonds to form between group members who “get” how they’re feeling.
  9. Hold events where everyone can come together and relax and have a good time. Our next event (for anyone) is on 3/23. It’s our annual Comfort Food Cook Off. Click for additional details.
  10. Keep our main website, the Shore Grief Center, current with upcoming groups and events as well as helpful information and resources.

I hope this illustrates the depth and breadth of exactly what The Shore Grief Center does for those grieving.

Thanks for learning more.

Carolyn

http://carolynzahnow.com/

 

10 Things Crutches Have Taught Me

ImageOn December 19th I had ankle surgery. It was nothing major – arthroscopy – the surgeon peeked in, cleaned up lots of scar tissue and got out that annoying piece of cartilage that had been floating around for too long. Two minor cuts and now scars. Yet I have recovery to do in order to get my ankle working correctly again.

Which meant learning to walk on crutches.

I have never in my 50+ years broken any bones requiring me to use crutches. But I have learned much while being stifled on my metal “sticks.”

  1. The handicapped restroom should be used as a last resort if you’re out in public and you aren’t handicapped. I have struggled to get into the regular stall in our office building and it isn’t fun!
  2. People are generally very nice when they see me coming. I hope to be more accommodating when I see someone in my current state.
  3. When not in use, lay crutches on the floor. Otherwise when leaned against the wall which I like to do, they tend to fall down by themselves – a lot!
  4. Dogs don’t like falling crutches or when you accidentally swope them when walking. Sheila, my dog, could probably write a book about this!
  5. Going out to eat is a whole new challenge! A restaurant is best because people bring food to you. Fast food – not so good. You can’t walk with crutches and carry a tray of food. And you can’t take your leftover drink with you either!  P.S. I miss the salad bar at Whole Foods 😦
  6. Walking around without crutches when it’s not time, is not a good idea! I was angry at my “handicap” so went to lunch with a friend the other day without them. I paid dearly the next day. Fortunately my physical therapist fixed me up!
  7. Crutches are adjustable – mine at set at 5’9″ and I’m 5’7 3/4″. This adjustment makes them fit under my arms better. Play with them to make them work for you.
  8. They have devices called knee walkers which must be heaven if you know you’re going to be on crutches for a long time. But then it must be a pain if you go anywhere in a car.
  9. People don’t understand “toe touch” walking with crutches. Of course, I have gotten a little sloppy with my toe touch but hey! that’s what my doctor said I could do!
  10. Don’t break any leg bones or a hip so I don’t ever have to use “sticks” again! That’s my final lesson from my ordeal.

Friday is my last day on crutches!

Well, maybe I’ll use one for a bit until I’m walking without pain but that’s an improvement in my book!