Handguns and Trains

Malia and Spenser I know I‘ve talked about handguns in the hands of those under 18 but I feel I must again since the statistics are not going down involving the two. In recent news – a 12-year old walks into his middle school gym brandishing a shotgun and starts shooting – why does someone, not even a teenager yet, have access to a gun?

A pair of teens in eastern North Carolina, one 15 and the other 16, sit in a pickup truck together on a deserted road near a bridge after school and shoot themselves. I think they should not have had access to a gun.

Guns make it too easy to kill others and themselves. Parents – please lock your guns up! Put a gun lock on them. Don’t advertise the fact that you own a gun.

I know that many folks live in parts of the country where hunting is popular – I live in one of those areas. And generally guns are used to hunt. But when you’re done hunting, lock up your gun. If you feel like that is your line of defense in case someone decides to rob you in the middle of the night (odds are extremely low for that happening), then hide your gun where your kids can not find it.

If someone in your house has been diagnosed with mental illness (such as depression), lock your gun up! Don’t make it easy for them to end their life if they become that distraught. It happens – a lot.

Now trains – what does that have to do with handguns? Nothing except for the fact that people are using trains as another method of suicide. A reporter in the Raleigh area has been brave enough to report this fact. ImageBrave because people do not like to read that word – suicide. A quote from his article is our problem today, “We don’t publicize it, because we don’t want copycats. People see it as a brutal way to go and a way to attract attention,” Worley said. “How do we talk about these things without encouraging more copycats?” (Paul Worley is the N.C. Department of Transportation Rail Division director.)

Trains are the number one way to end your life in the United Kingdom due to strong gun laws. The number one way in the United States? You guessed it – guns.

Guns – much better screening and using common sense about keeping guns locked up and out the reach of those under 18.

Trains – be aware of those around you who may be depressed or addicted and need professional help.They rarely ask for help so you have to be diligent with those you love noticing when they have been down for too long.

Please! Let’s move forward with some stronger actions to keep guns in their proper place and people off train tracks!

2014 – Here We Come!

The Shore Grief Center has had the privilege of helping many children, teens and adults since its conception in 2012. It’s a privilege because parents and adults turn to us for help with their child’s grief or their own grief.

We like that we don’t charge for our groups but we do need your support so we can keep it that way. We feel that grief should not come with a price tag and are sure you feel the same way.

Can you support our mission of providing free grief support groups for all who need them? Here’s the link bit.ly/shore2013.


Karlee, a Save the Teens grief group attendee

Hopes for 2014 include:

  • Getting a place of our own so parents can bring their kids and have a meal before breaking off into separate groups. Parents need to have time to process their grief as well and they could do that while their kids are meeting.
  • Teens need unique groups and we’d love to introduce photography into their groups. Photography is a great means of self-expression and a wonderful esteem builder.
  • Funding to provide salaries for key staff members. This will allow time to provide groups for other organizations and at schools.
  • A grief retreat for adults grieving a death.
  • MORE groups!

Ready to donate? bit.ly/shore2013

We love events so more people learn about and share information about The Shore Grief Center (plus they’re fun!). Upcoming events that we’re working on:

  • March – a Comfort Food Cook Off & silent auction in Wake Forest/North Raleigh
  • April – a sponsored car show in Wake Forest
  • May – a run perhaps?
  • September – BBQ plate sale in Youngsville
  • November – suicide and depression awareness walk in downtown Wake Forest

We invite you to sponsor an event to raise funds for The Shore Grief Center. We love to help you advertise your event but it’s time consuming for us to manage lots of events.  Consider becoming a Shore Ambassador!

Thank you for supporting the kids, teens and adults who learn how to manage their grief with the help of The Shore Grief Center. We appreciate any amount you are able to donate. Thanks for helping us grow.

You can donate online at bit.ly/shore2013 or via mail. Make checks out to The Shore Grief Center and mail to 105 River Watch Lane, Youngsville, NC 27596.

Donations are tax deducible. You will receive a donation letter for your taxes.  The Shore Grief Center is a 501(c)(3) charitable nonprofit organization (EIN 46-0623348).

Thank you and Happy New Year!

Carolyn Zahnow, the Shore Board, and its many wonderful volunteers!